Commentary: How to Feel the Holiday Cheer and Not Get Overwhelmed | Review by Chanhassen
Are you ready for the holidays or are you feeling overwhelmed?
This year has been different in many ways. One thing we realize is that the most important thing is being able to be with people you love. Last year it was harder to do. This year, things have calmed down a bit, which makes it easier to meet people. There are other potential issues such as supply chain issues, but we can still have a meaningful holiday season despite these drawbacks.
Recently we had calls and virtual meetings with other business owners. The predominant theme heard during these calls was that of overwhelm. There were discussions about how to end the year strong, how to put plans in place to jump start next year, how to maintain some harmony between professional and personal life, etc. Sometimes people even imagined what it would be like to drop everything and go live on a beach somewhere! Phew! It can seem daunting to maintain some semblance of common sense in a rapidly changing world.
Much of what we heard was about doing. Have to do this, have to do that. The irony is that this is the season that calls us to be, not just to do. Being present with our family, being present with our friends, yes, even being present with ourselves. After all, we are human beings, so let’s take the time to be.
Yes, we understand that it doesn’t have to be one or the other. We all have responsibilities. The goal is to find this delicate balance between the two dynamics of doing and being. The danger can exist in always doing now, thinking that when we reach a certain point of accomplishment, then we can be. We have all heard stories of lives cut short due to illness or accident where they never took the opportunity to really live their life because they were always busy doing it. A life of constant doing, devoid of being, can contribute to overwhelm.
To beat the stress of overload, here are some ideas from the Mayo Clinic. They suggest acknowledging that the holidays can be a difficult time, especially if you have lost a loved one or there is discord in relationships. Have realistic expectations, set aside differences, and get professional help if needed. Obviously, plan a budget so as not to overspend. They also see the value in planning ahead and having quiet times to regroup.
We love this simple saying from Lily Tomlin, “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” Instead of being overwhelmed, we received an email from a friend who shared her feelings of joy about this holiday season. He said, “My heart is overflowing again. Where do these tears of deep joy come from? Why am I so moved? He shared how he and his wife “…love the music this time of year and all the old Christmas movies we try to see every year. Life is always beautiful and full of joy and happiness.
One would think from his description that all of life is perfect. In fact, he and his wife both experienced serious health issues. Yet they focus on being in the present and enjoying life to the fullest. They are great examples of being overjoyed, not overwhelmed during the holiday season.
What are some things you could do to feel joy instead of being overwhelmed? Some things might include attending holiday events, spending time with family, and connecting with old friends. It’s also a time when we feel more like children. It’s fun to pull out our favorite decorations and fill the house with twinkling lights. Even though it involves doing something, it also involves being, as it might remind you of the joy you have experienced in years past.
And you? Do you feel overwhelmed or elated?
A few thoughts: We’ve shared ways to feel thrilled and not overwhelmed. Allow yourself to be realistic about what’s really important to you, what isn’t, and when to say no. To feel elated, we encourage you to do what brings you joy – and then bring that joy to the world.
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