Dad gets mad at the teacher who asked his son to invite his whole class to his birthday party

A father has lashed out at his son’s teacher after she insisted he invite the whole class to his birthday party.

The man took to Reddit to ask if he was wrong for losing his temper and insulting the teacher after she asked him to host the whole class so no one would feel left out.

The 38-year-old said that although the teacher had ‘no business’ telling the family who they could and could not invite to their party, he feared he had gone too far in the process. insulting.

The man said his son Al’s teacher called him after finding out he was having a birthday party and invited nine of the 24 children in the class.

“She tells me she understands that he is having a birthday party and has invited a few of his class friends, but not everyone. I said yes, there are a few children in there that he has issues with and I also don’t think we can really manage the accommodation of 24 children and their parents,’ he said. writing.

The teacher goes on to tell the disgruntled father that she has a rule that if any kids in the class are invited to a birthday party, then everyone must be invited.

“I told him it was an after school event on private property at my house. She can’t tell me what I’m doing there and who I can and can’t invite any more than I can decide who gets invited to her Thanksgiving dinner,” he said.

However, the teacher insisted that she was enforcing the rule so that no child ‘gets hurt if left out’.

“I pointed out to him that there were 24 children in the class. If their parents are attending the party with them that could be over 72 people and I told him that was just not a reasonable thing to ask,’ the man said.

He also said he asked if he would then need to invite all the classes of his son’s other friends who had been invited, but the teacher held firm.

‘ She then said ‘Al is in my class. He is under my supervision. This is my rule.’ I then told him that Al was only under his supervision while he was in class,” he said.

“I’m the one throwing the party, and she has no right to make any rules for my house or me. She then said if it involves her class, she does.

After a “little bit of back and forth”, the father said he had “lost his temper” telling the teacher that his authority does not extend beyond the end of the school day and the “school gates”.

“If you think you’re the one making the rules for me, in my house I’m paying the mortgage on, you can go fuck yourself and there’s nothing you can do about it,” he said he told her.

Although he said his wife agreed that the school couldn’t tell them who they could and couldn’t invite them to their house outside of school hours, she thinks he may have gone too far in swearing .

“I am very comfortable telling her that she has no right to tell us who we can and cannot invite to our house and that it is crazy that I have to invite up to 72 people so that my son has friends of his attend classes, but in truth, I kind of like to leave out that last “fuck you” part, he admitted.

The 38-year-old said that while the teacher did “not have to tell” the family who they could and could not invite to their party, he feared he had gone too far in insulting him.

The post drew thousands of comments from Redditors, many of whom agreed with the father and defended his bossy approach.

“Several different ways were used to politely say ‘no’ to him. She seems to have taken the message with profanity,’ one person wrote.

“You declined his request, which you had every right to do. Instead of accepting this, she argued with you. Some people won’t take no for an answer until you get more forceful with it,” a second said.

A third commented: “She is ridiculous. My child’s school policy is that if you do not invite children to your child’s party, do not expect to be invited to theirs. Common sense.’

While the father confirmed his son did not hand out invites to class to those who weren’t invited to see, some said the ‘everyone or none’ rule was common at many schools.

“The reason behind this is that if the kids are left out, you’re basically throwing a grenade in the middle of a classroom of teachers and then letting them clean up the mess,” one user explained.