Married to First Sight, Ryan speaks out amid Clara’s divorce

Break his silence. Married at first sight Star Ryan Oubré shared his version of the events that led to his separation from his wife Clara berghaus.

The project manager, 30, opened up about his divorce from the flight attendant, 28, in a lengthy statement posted via Instagram on Wednesday, December 29. He began by saying that he decided to speak out because he did not want to “sit lazily by” because “false statements” were made about his family and friends.

“To marry a stranger is indescribable,” he wrote. “On the one hand, you have full confidence in the process and the people involved and [on] the other, you think about what to do if that doesn’t work.

Oubre and Berghaus met in season 12 of the Lifetime series, which aired earlier this year. When the reunion special aired in May, the duo were still together, but two months later they announced their split.

While neither spouse hinted at what was wrong at the time, Oubre’s new statement implied that he and Berghaus were having off-camera issues that led to the breakup.

“You can’t really be open to marrying another race and not wanting to marry their culture (or at least understand it),” he wrote. “What I can say is: walking into a family reunion and not talking to anyone and scrolling your phone will never steal and refuse food (apart from an allergy or food avoidance) because that you don’t like the way it looks won’t help either.

The reality TV star went on to say how important it is for his potential partner to understand how to navigate discussions of racism, especially if he wants children.

“By marrying a different race / culture, you are inherently adopting parts of their identity,” he continued. “Most importantly, your kids will do it 100%, and your kids will need you to help them navigate. … Choosing not to try to understand and to educate oneself is a red flag.

Oubre clarified that he did not understand the post as “an accusation of racism” against anyone. “We avoided having these conversations in front of the camera because I knew it was a complex subject and I didn’t want it to appear because I was cocking the camera against it. [Clara]”He explained.” I recognize that – I intentionally derailed conversations or avoided them because I knew where it was going. We had enough off camera to know how it would go on camera. “

The former Lifetime personality has apparently hinted that some of Berghaus’s social media posts made him want to share his side of the story. In September, the Atlanta resident posted a TikTok video of her dancing as she signed her divorce papers.

“Despite the months of the weekly [marital] counseling sessions and lots of conversations around these topics for months during / after the show that were ignored – these are used as content for clicks, likes, TikTok dances and mass attention, ”a writes Oubre. “Choosing to ignore a conversation isn’t blind, it’s called avoidance. “

The Georgia native concluded by saying that “Clara is 1000% allowed to have her own belief system,” adding that he “has no idea what was put on this questionnaire” as MAFS experts use to match couples. “I can definitely tell you that the outlook for life and religion was non-negotiable for me,” he noted.

Last month, Berghaus claimed via a TikTok video that Oubre “made it very clear” that he felt “more attached to our marriage than I did.” She said that was one of the reasons she decided to change her last name after their marriage. After months of back and forth, she still hasn’t managed to find her maiden name, but she’s still trying.

“I’m not looking for the attention of a man that I don’t want anything to do with either, and I date other people,” she added. “So, yes, sometimes I seek the attention of men, but not this man.”

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